Cat Fight: Why it’s OK for Black Girls

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When it comes to women in my family, I may not have a lot, but the ones that I do have, stand out. They stand out by providing for us, by caring for us, and leading by example of the right thing to do. They strive in all of their fields of work, showing that it is not impossible for a woman to succeed in a country mainly ruled by men.  Not only do they meet the standards put on by society, but often exceed it. And of course, all of them have the upmost respect for one another, other people, and most importantly themselves. Because of this, throughout my life I have thought of females as strong, poised people with high self-esteem. This changed when I started high school.

        In as little as the first month, I noticed things were a little strange. For one thing, I realized that not only were people obviously bigger and taller than me, but that there were a lot more harsh words thrown in the air. Sugar Honey Ice T (you know what I mean) was in every conversation, The F-bomb was dropped on a regular, and when it came to any reference toward any female of any kind, you could bet on “bitch” being the word of choice. And I know, the world isn’t pretty and nice, but I was especially surprised by the amount of language coming from the black girls in the school towards each other! Sometimes it was in a playful way, but other times (more than boys for the most part) it led to VERY loud arguments, which led to shoving, and finally, fighting. This draws a crowd of course, which cheers on their favorite girl, until someone ends up in handcuffs. To some this seems like entertainment, but to me it seems like a problem.

        I simply didn’t understand the source of all the anger, if there was even a source at all. I understand that people have conflict with one another all the time, but these girls are fighting as if it’s the only form of resolution. What was this coming from? Thinking it was a lost cause after months of seeing the same thing, I decided to go home and watch some TV.

“Sportscenter…… No.”

“Spongebob……. Not right now.”

“Key and Peele…..Maybe later.”

“Basketball Wives:…..Hmm, never seen it. Might as well give it a try.”





“……AHHHHHHHBYONYOEHVNVOMCRPIHFXEFXJRGPNTNJOIUNYLH!!!!!!(flying fists, screams made, and champagne glasses broken)”

After only 10 minutes. 10 minutes. What is this?!?!?, I said to myself.  Is this supposed to help anybody? How does this even make money? With mixed emotions, I turned off the TV and sat at my desk in silence until it finally hit me. And now I’m here writing this.

        What the media is doing now is basically feeding into the minds of black girls  that in order to be famous and have money, you need to do one of two things: 1)marry a rich basketball star so you don’t necessarily have to work at anything, and; 2) get hyped for no reason and fight women with the same mindset.  Now I know that reality TV most of the time is fake, but that isn’t the problem. Because of this, we have girls that are fighting and cursing at each other, in the hopes of not only gaining respect, but to also prepare themselves for their potential “job.” This also halts their learning drive, ‘cause  who needs to learn algebra or social studies when all you need to do is pull out a girl’s weave? It would be different if these “Basketball Wives” were everyday people, but not only are they well-off, but rather paid if you ask me. Basically, the example of a black woman in the media now is a woman with nothing to her name other than her husband.

        I say all this to simply express my opinion on the matter. Watching this show has solved the question in my mind towards why some girls choose to use violence rather than to solve issues in a more productive manner.  If you don’t agree, then let me know. This is just something I saw, and I would really like to hear more viewpoints on this issue. After all, I’m just a boy looking on from the outside. Whether you’re a boy who’s been in a fight with a girl, a mother who is going through this with her  child, or a fighting girl yourself, it doesn’t matter. With more views, an accurate resolution can be made, and that’s all I’m trying to accomplish. But in the end, it was an interesting experience watching this show, and has really opened my eyes towards how black women are perceived in the media, and the outcome it creates towards black girls.

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The Childish Gambino Deep Web Tour Review

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 “The crowd was waiting for the man of the night. After almost 45 minutes of an opener DJ set, it was time to see who they were paying for. All that was heard was the clicking of iPhones in boredom, as the DJ  made his last remarks, leaving his booth. There was nobody on stage,  leaving only props consisting of a piano, a couple of sofas, some drums, a projector screen, and a chandelier. As soon as the crowd’s attention is almost completely lost, a voice comes from the background repeating the same word over and over again:


woooorldstar. Wooooorldstar. WOOOOORLDSTAR. WOOOOORLDSTAR!


The crowd joins in and forms a deafening chant. Over and over, this is all you hear from the sold out crowd. And suddenly, almost oblivious to the noise, Childish Gambino walks onto the stage and sits at the piano. He’s met by what sounds like a roar of screams as the crowd rushes towards the stage trying to get a better look. The band walks on seconds later, as Gambino leans into the microphone. With a sleepy cadence he says:

‘What’s up Atlanta’.


The show had begun”.

If you don’t know who or what I’m talking about, the answer is Childish Gambino. Childish Gambino a.k.a Donald Glover, is a comedian/actor/writer/rapper that has made his mark on a few forms of entertainment. Whether it’s writing for 30 Rock, being a stand-up comedian, or playing the role Troy Barnes on NBC’sCommunity, Donald has showed that he is not only funny, but smart, creative, and extremely talented. His rap career started in 2010 with a couple of mixtapes entitled I Am Just A Rapper and I Am Just A Rapper 2, and really took off with his first LP Camp  in 2011. Since then he has been doing a plethora of things, including releasing his second studio album entitled Because The Internet (album cover above). This album was accompanied by a full screenplay to go along with it, involving a young adult like Donald living a laid-back, lavish, and lonely lifestyle. The album was, in my opinion, really good, showing multiple sides of Gambino that really showed off his range. And to top it all off, Donald announced the Deep Web Tour around the world where he’ll be performing stuff from his past and recent album. I was lucky enough to get tickets.


What a show.


The first thing that I loved  was the live band that played throughout the concert. Not only did it give the concert an authentic experience, but it was also really, really good. From the drums down to the backup singers, everyone held their own. My personal favorite was the female keyboard player, who almost hypnotized me by how powerful and passionate she was. And all of it fit so well with Gambino’s music, which isn’t just all synths and bass like some other rappers. By putting actual instruments into his songs, it makes the live experience that much better.

What was also really cool, was the Deep Web app that was made especially for the concert, and how people in the crowd could interact with the actual concert via a projector screen. You could send messages, take polls in some areas, and even draw pictures when you wanted to. I wish I knew about it before, but it was still really cool ( and sometimes funny) to see what people were writing in real time in the crowd.

On top of all this, the stage was set up to resemble moments in the screenplay, so it was as if you were watching a movie during the performance with Gambino acting as the score. I was wondering why there were sofas and a chandelier when I got there, for it almost looked like a stage for a play or something. But it worked out really well, and I felt like I wasn’t just at a concert.

And of course, there’s the performance from Childish Gambino. This was, in my opinion, the best part of concert hands down. This man put on a show. He rapped with incredible charisma, he sang really well, he danced, he talked to the crowd, he freestyled, he did everything. You could feel the electricity coming from the stage with songs like “Worldstar” and “Crawl”. And because of this, the audience never seemed to stop cheering. All the parts for a great show were there, and he was basically the glue that put it all together. It was really good.

So in conclusion, I would rate this performance an 8 and a half out of 10 (we waited for a little bit for him to come out due to some safety problems or something). It was fun, it was interesting, it was exciting, and it was CRAZY. If you have some spare time and he’s in your city, I highly recommend checking it out. Chances are, you’ll become a fan.



Here’s another photo from the concert.


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